A relationship is a combination of people, each with their own way of seeing, doing, and being human. There is bound to be some conflict and misunderstandings. That is inevitable! These disagreements don't have to be buried or ignored, they can be explored and validated.

I work under the premise that all humans have an innate ability and desire to bond with others and create secure connections. The way individuals do this varies and when misunderstood, their actions can be seen as threatening by others. We simultaneously want to keep ourselves safe and connect with our partners. When we see our partner as a threat, our internal systems are confused and we react out of personal safety, which often damages our relationship.

Thankfully, there we can learn to do things differently. Our internal systems can be regulated so we do not feel so threatened. We can learn to see our partners as teammates rather than adversaries. Having this change requires new experiences.